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The World is Too Small Compared to Our Life.

I always say that the world is too small while it is being compared to our life... I know that the comparison between the life and the world is not proper. Still in respect of our life time we can compare this world. How? I don’t know why did I say this for the first time, but realized it perfectly last night.


In late 2007, I met a business tycoon named 'KKK'. At that time the interest was shown from his side. He had a secondary partnership business and his partner AD, called me to go and meet them. I visited their setup very next day.


I was working in a software organization at that time and was trying to build something my own simultaneously. I shook my hand with one of my guide/teacher/friend, SS, to try something new. We worked together for several clients. We had the contacts to get new jobs from clients directly at that time. However we could not disclose our workplace to the clients as we did not have that actually. We were habituated to complete our own tasks from home. Basically for those projects we were freelancers. I worked as the point of contact for those small business applications. We were looking for a business setup to grasp more POs of more than one small scale business applications.


Simultaneously Mr. KKK was looking for some experienced people with the ready offers for their start up. I met him in his office and started to accelerate towards the venture. With a short meeting we just started to interact. The proceed for first 2 weeks was nice. We contacted a new client for our new venture. They were almost done with our proposal. In fact I visited the client's office for the road-map of the project.


Suddenly we got some information regarding some misunderstandings between KKK & AD. They decided to run separately. I was really confused to select any one of them to work with. So SS and I decided to leave both of them and we closed the chapter at that point. After that I didn't contact any of them for 6-7 years not even they did the same.


Last night I met her. We were connected for the first time through a daily news paper and then via email just 5 days back from this blog post. I met her after chatting for 3 consecutive days. She introduced herself as a simple and ordinary girl and I did the same. There was no any connection between her and the mentioned business venture. Suddenly I realized she is telling about the primary business of that particular business tycoon. I asked her about KKK and got a reply that KKK is well known to her. Then I explained how do I know him and why did we stopped the interactions among SS, KKK, AD and myself. I told her that we could be successful today if everything worked well. Whatever that is, finally I came to know that she is one and only sister of Mr. KKK. 


And that's why I like to say THE WORLD IS TOO SMALL COMPARED TO OUR LIFE...

It's also a character...

Everything in this world is highly changeable. You can say everything being changed with a static direction. Moreover, it doesn’t end anywhere, anytime, anyway. Even if it is a matter of human being. I think this is a Cycle of Change. Yes, I know that a human being grows up and never returns back to the childhood again. However, nature and mentality of a human being is changeable and it is true.

A person, a neighbor, I call him uncle. When I was a real child, I used to play or roam with his bicycle every day. He was my idle in my childhood. We don't have any blood relation. He was a junior friend of my father but was the philosopher and the guide to each of our family members. Such a good human and caring person he was. Moreover, not only for our family, for all of them needed any type of guidance or consultation that may be personal, may be medical or may be legal.

I am talking about the decade of 90’s. Both of our family was too closed to each other that we did know each movement of a day. I don’t know you will agree or not that every family has their own problems. We had our own, and they had their. We were used to solve or help each other. My uncle believed that my father was the elder brother of him.

He was the only person who knew the exact disease in the last days of my father. He was the main contact person to the hospitals or medical practitioners regarding my father’s case. He tried to do his best as a shield during those tough days. But he is also a human being not God. After 2 and ¹/₂ months, my father had lost the fight against Acute Leukemia. I was 15 years old at that time.

After that I personally felt major lack of guidance, a major lack of friendship. I wanted to hear some advices, some orders, some suggestions. But my father was not there for all of these. After some time, he, that means my uncle started to act like my guardian. I loved it. We all want to be a child to someone special. We all want a support back to us. I was not so different that I didn't expect the same thing. He guided me throughout my 10+2 years. He became a nearest one to me. He helped me, actually, not only me, he started to guide our entire family in several matters at that time. We spent a golden period of neighborhood. But you know, good times stay for a while.

In a fine morning, he asked me to help him to get out from a technical issue that I can manage. I helped him beyond his expectation. And he knows it till now. But one of his friends, was able to make him understood that I have done that for my own interest. I have got some benefit from his trouble. I was unable to believe that someone can tell him something against me. In addition, he can trust others but not me. It was almost a shock to me. He decided to humiliate in every steps of my daily life and he did it so perfectly.

Till now, I really don’t know what was my guilt. What I had done. Those days I was excluded from all the social activities and events. Even if my mother heard so much rude versions from several people for the same incident.

There were three friends of mine, they knew me. They were always beside me those days. I am really grateful to them. Sanjay, Sourya and Somenath... These guys helped me to take back a challenge to fight to proof my righteous. And I recovered my place to society after 1.5 – 2 years. We know what the time it was. What the period I spent in 2006 – 2007.

After 2007 the things got entirely swapped. Post 2007, I was in a better place regarding trust, regarding responsibilities in my society, then he and his surrounded friends were almost ignorable. But I really felt compassionate for them. In 2002-2005, that was a time when we worked for some NGOs, for our Club, for other social organizations together. And then we were a team of 20-25 guys. But after that particular incident, every one got scattered in three different paths. 3 of them were with me, 8-10 people were with him and rest of the team were in a different path. Those guys tried to maintain good relations with both of us. But we never get together like before.

Suddenly in February 2012 I got some information that my so called uncle started to tell something about his fault. He told some of my friends the he feels sorry for those incident what he has done with me and my mother. On 3^rd March 2012, all of a sudden, I got a call from my uncle and he asked me to meet once. I had a real soft corner for him till date. And I agreed to met him.

On 4^th March we faced each other. He told me what and why he had done all the things to me. And he was almost crying at the time of our conversation. He realized his misses to disbelief me. And he remembered the good times we spent. At the same day, I was able to make him understand that I was not harmful to him. And I proved him by another thing I did with him that he didn't know at all.

Whatever the process was, we gone through that and as the result we were coming closer again. We started to talk frequently. We started to share all the things again. But my mother could not forget the disgrace what he had done to her. And till now they are not talking each other. So my situation is so embarrassing when I am interacting with my uncle and my mother noticed it. I also decreases the frequency of the calls and meetings and I have been forced to do the same.

However, I did expect, that my uncle will talk to my mother regarding the same to resolve the problems between them. But he is also rigid to do it. I did expect that we will enjoy our relationships again. Doing a big mistake my uncle is behaving like a stubborn till now. He accepts his fault, but don’t want to confess the same in front of my mother. So it's becoming more difficult to maintain the relation with him now onwards.

And I will say that he can do anything to me hearing something from outsiders. He can exclude me from all the social activities, he can reproach me by character, he can dishonor my mother... After that he can acknowledge in front of me where as I am too younger to him. But he cannot do the same in front of my mother where she is elder than him. My question to him that are you correct and clear to yourself?

It's raw... but surprising...

“You may not get the same as return when you love someone.” – This is true. However, today I have perceived some versions of them; those insist you to believe these words… It was a strange experience. What are meanings of ‘FEELINGS’, ‘RESPECT’, ‘BONDINGS’ OR ‘FAMILY VALUES, to the GEN-NXT (Coming generation), it may be for himself/herself or for others??? How they are explaining these words today? I have no idea… I realized that WE, the 80’s, ARE SIMPLY OUTDATED TODAY…



I was in a public transport and there were a couple of college students behind my seat. They were communicating about their own. One of them, was using some sentences again and again. I am just quoting her …




১। "বাপি(বাবা) আছে টাকা দেওয়ার জন্য... টাকা দিতে বাপি বাধ্য।"


২। "এটা আমার life, life-এ আমি কি করব, কখন করব, কিভাবে করব, সেটা শুধু মাত্র আমিই ঠিক করব। সেখানে মা কেন কথা বলতে আসবে??? আমিতো মায়ের কোনো ব্যাপারে নাক গলাই না।"


৩। "কোনো ছেলে যদি সেরকম Handu(Handsome) হয়, তো তার সাথে অনেক দূরে ঘুরতে যেতে বা এক ঘরে থাকতে আমার problem হয় না... সে ছেলেটা যেমনই হোক না কেন... মাত্র ২-৩ দিনের ত ব্যাপার।"




There was a most awful sentence too. I had listened it from one of my good friends also. I was surprised hearing the same words this time. May be the language was different at that time. But it was a repetition… and that is…



"Guys get attracted on me. I think, few of them are badly serious, but… ঐ ছেলেগুলো আমার সামনে এলেই আমার ঝাঁট জলে যায়..."

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LIVE LIFE KING SIZE...

Life cannot satisfy your needs or expectations always as per your view, rather you can say that you cannot get all the required things in your life when you expect them. 

Suppose you need something from another person, and you know that the person can provide you the same with happiness. However, you are not getting the thing. Sometimes you are getting the thing you were looking for. When you are getting it, you have fulfilled your needs by another. Even sometimes, you are getting the same thing with the exact configuration at the actual time frame, but the person who are giving you the thing, he/she is not so happy at the time of giving. Therefore, you cannot expect that each and everything you need in your life will get with the expected environment.

Relations are mostly a burden to fulfill your own needs. When you need to relocate somewhere else for your own career, you are unable to do it because of your family. May be after few months the circumstances demand the relocation again and your family agreed. May be this time you have an opportunity which also meets the requirement, but you will think that the previous opportunity was better than this. May be when your family support you to relocate, then you do not have any opportunity.

Sometime you need someone in your life as a real friend. But he/she has another one for her own. So you will not get that person as you expected. On other hand, suppose he/she wanted you as his/her partner. But you are not actually ready to accept it. Then? It happens with several human beings that, when he/she expressed something like this in front of you, you had ignored the thought. But day by day you realize that the person was your need and you have ignored your happiness. Now when you are expecting that he/she is waiting for you and you are expecting a positive result from that person, you are being afraid.

Suppose you need a better place to build a universe of your own. But you have to wait for another 5 years for it. You know that after 5 years the concept will not make any sense at that time. Still you have to wait.

One of my friends, who knows and believes that, he will not be alive for a long time. He knows that the entire system of the body as well as mind is going to crash in a single moment near future; He knows that he is going to leave this lovely universe very soon, how much should he/she expect from life and how much should he/she get from it?

I did not get any answer when I placed the same question to some of my colleagues, friends and my family members. I think nobody can realize the pain of that person. I am not so different so I could not feel the same. Yeah, I understand that he wants to be with us like others. However, when he came in front of me 2 months ago, I could not do anything for him.

We all believe that we have so many problems so many difficulties in our life. Some of us pray to god that ‘Please do not send any other person with this type of LUCK’. We do not believe that we, who are reading this post, have so much luxury in our life. We do not trust that we do not have any capability to gain some more in respect to them, those cannot dream the little amount we are getting. I had faced a problem that is lesser than negligible to these people, and got a valuable comment from another friend and ex-colleague Adorin (Abhijit Banerjee) , which I believe since that day and will believe until my last breath.


We all are accustomed to all these, because God has made us like this.....bearing with the pain and struggle to sustain

I shared the same words ‘LIVE LIFE KING SIZE...’

Destroy the wall before it's too late

When you are inside a glass-room you can see the effects of the storm... but cannot feel it. So destroy the wall if you want to experience it in reality...

Destiny...

We, the human beings, enter in our daily routine in the morning. We work, we play, we study, we do each and everything for a result ... We believe that our dedication will be noticed... We believe that our struggle will be counted... In addition, we expect that result to be appeared in front of us, that we want to see... We wait for it for a whole day... But end of the day, we see we are the LOOSERS... Then we believe that the super natural power was not with us at the time of that struggle...


But we don't believe DESTINY IS PREDEFINED...