Everything in this
world is highly changeable. You can say everything being changed with
a static direction. Moreover, it doesn’t end anywhere, anytime,
anyway. Even if it is a matter of human being. I think this is a
Cycle of Change. Yes, I know that a human being grows up and never
returns back to the childhood again. However, nature and mentality of
a human being is changeable and it is true.
A person, a neighbor, I call him uncle. When I was a real child, I used to play
or roam with his bicycle every day. He was my idle in my childhood.
We don't have any blood relation. He was a junior friend of my father
but was the philosopher and the guide to each of our family members.
Such a good human and caring person he was. Moreover, not only for
our family, for all of them needed any type of guidance or
consultation that may be personal, may be medical or may be legal.
I am talking about
the decade of 90’s. Both of our family was too closed to each other
that we did know each movement of a day. I don’t know you will
agree or not that every family has their own problems. We had our
own, and they had their. We were used to solve or help each other. My
uncle believed that my father was the elder brother of him.
He was the only
person who knew the exact disease in the last days of my father. He
was the main contact person to the hospitals or medical practitioners
regarding my father’s case. He tried to do his best as a shield
during those tough days. But he is also a human being not God. After
2 and 1/2 months, my father had lost the fight
against Acute Leukemia. I was 15 years old at that time.
After that I
personally felt major lack of guidance, a major lack of friendship. I
wanted to hear some advices, some orders, some suggestions. But my
father was not there for all of these. After some time, he, that
means my uncle started to act like my guardian. I loved it. We all
want to be a child to someone special. We all want a support back to
us. I was not so different that I didn't expect the same thing. He
guided me throughout my 10+2 years. He became a nearest one to me. He
helped me, actually, not only me, he started to guide our entire
family in several matters at that time. We spent a golden period of
neighborhood. But you know, good times stay for a while.
In a fine morning,
he asked me to help him to get out from a technical issue that I can
manage. I helped him beyond his expectation. And he knows it till
now. But one of his friends, was able to make him understood that I
have done that for my own interest. I have got some benefit from his
trouble. I was unable to believe that someone can tell him something
against me. In addition, he can trust others but not me. It was
almost a shock to me. He decided to humiliate
in every steps of my daily life and he did it so perfectly.
Till now, I really
don’t know what was my guilt. What I had done. Those days I was
excluded from all the social activities and events. Even if my mother
heard so much rude versions from several people for the same
incident.
There were three
friends of mine, they knew me. They were always beside me those days.
I am really grateful to them. Sanjay, Sourya and Somenath... These
guys helped me to take back a challenge to fight to proof my
righteous. And I recovered my place to society after 1.5 – 2 years.
We know what the time it was. What the period I spent in 2006 –
2007.
After 2007 the
things got entirely swapped. Post 2007, I was in a better place
regarding trust, regarding responsibilities in my society, then he
and his surrounded friends were almost ignorable. But I really felt
compassionate for them. In 2002-2005, that was a time when we worked
for some NGOs, for our Club, for other social organizations together.
And then we were a team of 20-25 guys. But after that particular
incident, every one got scattered in three different paths. 3 of them
were with me, 8-10 people were with him and rest of the team were in
a different path. Those guys tried to maintain good relations with
both of us. But we never get together like before.
Suddenly in
February 2012 I got some information that my so called uncle started
to tell something about his fault. He told some of my friends the he
feels sorry for those incident what he has done with me and my
mother. On 3rd March 2012, all of a sudden, I got a call
from my uncle and he asked me to meet once. I had a real soft corner
for him till date. And I agreed to met him.
On 4th
March we faced each other. He told me what and why he had done all
the things to me. And he was almost crying at the time of our
conversation. He realized his misses to disbelief me. And he
remembered the good times we spent. At the same day, I was able to
make him understand that I was not harmful to him. And I proved him
by another thing I did with him that he didn't know at all.
Whatever the
process was, we gone through that and as the result we were coming
closer again. We started to talk frequently. We started to share all
the things again. But my mother could not forget the disgrace what he
had done to her. And till now they are not talking each other. So my
situation is so embarrassing when I am interacting with my uncle and
my mother noticed it. I also decreases the frequency of the calls and
meetings and I have been forced to do the same.
However, I did
expect, that my uncle will talk to my mother regarding the same to
resolve the problems between them. But he is also rigid to do it. I
did expect that we will enjoy our relationships again. Doing a big
mistake my uncle is behaving like a stubborn till now. He accepts his
fault, but don’t want to confess the same in front of my mother. So
it's becoming more difficult to maintain the relation with him now
onwards.
And I will say that
he can do anything to me hearing something from outsiders. He can
exclude me from all the social activities, he can reproach me by
character, he can dishonor my mother... After that he can acknowledge
in front of me where as I am too younger to him. But he cannot do the
same in front of my mother where she is elder than him. My question
to him that are you correct and clear to yourself?
